Psychotherapist and Relationship Coach shows you how to:

Save your Relationship Before it Ends


Relationships are built on 3 domains that make or break connection.

These 3 domains actually predict divorce or breakup... or predict a lifetime of deep friendship, shared meaning, and love. It's your (and your partner's) choice.

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Use the same relationship building interventions I use with my clients.

You can save your relationship. I'll show you how.

YOUR ACCESS TO THE

RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENT

IS THE KEY THAT UNLOCKS THE FULL POTENTIAL OF THE

RELATIONSHIP MODULES

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Relationship Assessment

An extensively researched assessment tool that consists of 300+ questions about friendship, intimacy, emotions, conflict, values, and trust, as well as parenting, housework, finances, individual areas of concern, and more. Each partner completes the assessment individually, then a comprehensive report detailing the strengths and weaknesses of the relationship will be produced, allowing the couple to focus on the modules that will have the most impact on the relationship. [$250 Value]

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Relationship Modules

Unrestricted DIY access to a multimedia library with 13 modules containing 35 research-based exercises and 90 exclusive demonstration videos designed to address the problem areas identified in your Relationship Assessment. These are the same tools and interventions I use with my clients in my private practice! [$750 Value]

Access your Relationship Assessment + Relationship Modules, a $1000 value, for only $495!

WHY I AM OFFERING THESE TOOLS TO YOU

Whether you’re newly together or you've been married for decades… few things disrupt a happy relationship faster than conflict. Maybe you’re experiencing this right now.

Maybe you’ve been married for a long time and the same fight keeps coming up over and over again (even decade after decade!)…

Maybe you think, “If we just keep trying, it will all work out!” But the more you try, the more lonely, discouraged, and distant you feel...

You’re not alone.

I am offering these tools to you in an effort to help you:

Communicate what matters to you without explosive conflict or distance

Diffuse conversations that blow up into arguments

Increase intimacy, respect, and affection

Break down barriers that leave you feeling stuck or stagnated

Build more warmth and understanding into your relationship


LET'S FACE IT, MANY OF US WEREN'T TAUGHT HOW TO DO THIS BY THE RELATIONSHIPS WE WERE AROUND GROWING UP.

I WANT TO TEACH YOU HOW TO DO THIS.


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So much conflict in relationships can be distilled down to one simple question at the center of it all: "Are you there for me?"

This question really is about trust: Trust in your partner's transparency, and/or trust that your partner's world will stop when you're suffering.

In other words, can you count on your partner to be a truthful person who is what he or she appears to be within the relationship, and/or are you confident your partner is a good person... and their intentions, motives, and actions toward you are rooted in kindness, love, and goodwill.

Trust can earned... but how?

[These modules show you]

Trust is built on the commitment to pay attention to your partner in three fundamental contexts:

Intentionally paying attention to tiny turning points that are an opportunity, or a lost opportunity, for connection

Intentionally discussing interactions that did not go so well after the fact

Intentionlly paying attention to what is happening during conflict

THERE ARE 3 DOMAINS THESE MODULES FOCUS ON:


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DEEP FRIENDSHIP

Deep friendship requires wanting and working to understand each other's internal lived experience, the mutual sharing of fondness and admiration, the consistent movement toward connection with each other, and an intentional habit of mind that looks for the positive attributes of each other.


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CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

Conflict management that protects the bond of your relationship requires the identification of the core issues that inform disconnection, and the patterns of interaction that trigger defensive posturing. Embedded in all of these are stories born long ago that operate in the shadows of experience, intensifying conflict, and threatening the relationship.


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SHARED MEANING

Shared meaning is one part individual, and one part couple: the union of two that interdependently serve each other's life dreams, and foster shared meaning. This is the way you both move through time together, how you prioritize your time and resources, and how you tell the stories about your lives.


Just Stop for a Second and Ask Yourself:


DO I UNDERSTAND WHY MY PARTNER REACTS THE WAY THEY DO?

DOES MY PARTNER UNDERSTAND ME?

COULD I BE DOING SOMETHING THAT TRIGGERS ALL OF THIS CONFLICT?

DO I EVEN UNDERSTAND WHAT MY PARTNER TRIGGERS IN ME?

CAN MY PARTNER CHANGE?

CAN I CHANGE?


Now ask: Why do relationships fail?

Conflict that is not fully processed is toxic, leaving one feeling unseen, unheard, and misunderstood. This erodes trust: trust that your partner will be there for you when you're suffering.

Our brains are meaning makers, and try to make meaning of the felt reality that your partner may not be there for you when you need them to be. The "easiest" explanation your brain finds for feeling this way often is believing your partner has unchangeable character flaws that “explain” the conflict, like “she's selfish”, or "he's a bad person".

Gradually, individuals become self-absorbed, living within a relationship without a stable bond, unable to act with their partner’s best interests at heart, and, instead, respond with their own interests at heart.

Trust is gone, betrayal is an ever-present possibility, and the relationship is on life support.

This is why relationships fail:

The relentless erosion of trust.

THESE MODULES WILL TEACH YOU:

How to pay attention to each other's negative feelings or feelings about a difficult incident, instead of dismissing, disapproving, or defending against them.


How to fully process conflict with your partner, instead of allowing the negative emotion to lie inside like an improvised explosive device (IED), ready to explode if inadvertently stepped on.

How to avoid becoming overwhelmed, which predicts defensiveness, and instead remain in a state that invites understanding and connection.


How to write and tell a story of deep friendship and shared meaning, instead of a story that dwells on emotional injury and the slow death of a relationship bond that suffered greatly over it's history.

WHAT TO DO NEXT

You are purchasing access to a comprehensive Relationship Assessment AND unlimited DIY access to a multimedia library with 13 modules containing 35 research-based exercises and 90 exclusive demonstration videos designed to address typical problem areas in a committed relationship. This is the 'work' people talk about when talking about marriage, or really any committed relationship.

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Step 1: Self Assessment

Each partner will receive a separate email inviting you to Assessment platform. NOTE: Allow 24 hours to receive invitation from time of purchase.

Create a private profile: Once you have accepted the email invitation to join Assessment platform, you and your partner will each create individual, separate profiles.

Complete the assessment: You and your partner will each complete your own assessment at your convenience. Stop and start at any time. Neither partner will be able to access the other’s information at any point in the process. In order to preserve the integrity and accuracy of the tool, you are encouraged not to share your responses with each other or log in to your partner’s account. The actual time it takes to complete each assessment varies, but it will take, on average, about two hours.

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Step 2: Get Results

When you have both completed your individual assessments, a report will be generated and emailed to you (within 24 hours). This report will contain detailed discussion of your relationship strengths and weaknesses, and will suggest a plan for improving and strengthening your relationship, including what modules to focus on in the DIY library you now have access to.

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